Regrets, I've had a few; But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do And saw it through without exemption...
Those lyrics are from “My Way”, a song made famous by Frank Sinatra, and it popped into my head when Shelly tweeted the prompt for this weeks Write or Die: What do you think of the saying “no regrets”? Do you think it is natural or conducive to have regrets? Do you think regret is a useless emotion? Do you have any regrets? I’ve had moments of self-doubt – when my choices didn’t quite pan out the way I hoped and I find myself wondering, Did I do the right thing? What would have happened if I’d gone the other way, made the other choice?
But ‘IF’ does not lead to happiness. ‘IF’ says that you are not content that you made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time. In the NFL, it’s called Monday morning quarterbacking, where the sports analysts use the outcome of the game to asses whether the decisions made during the game were the right ones. You can’t do that. You could drive yourself crazy with questions. It won’t change what happened.
In hindsight, you can see how a decision you made set up a chain of events but how to tell what events a different step would have led to? Remember the movie Sliding Doors? Remember Jo Walton’s book, My Real Children? Who knows what would have happened if you made another choice? The point is you didn’t, so you could waste your time and emotion in regret or you can move forward with the life you actually have.
My only regrets are the things I didn’t do – the stories I dreamed but never wrote down, now lost somewhere in the muddle that is my mind; the opportunities I never took, now gone forever; the friends I didn’t make because I didn’t say the things I should have; the goals I set but didn’t work on which means I am still working towards them even now.
I choose to be happy with my decisions, most recently, my decision to start a MODRUN in the middle of winter. Day 3’s run was a little under 2 miles. Sure something might happen that makes me say, I wonder if I made the right decision. But I can’t go into it thinking like that.
On the run, I snapped a pic of someone’s window box arrangement. Yup, those are Eggshells! The best thing I ate yesterday was from this little game I played with myself a la Chopped. What can I make with a piece of chicken breast, 2 carrots, 2 baby potatoes and some lentils? It was delicious, filling and best of all, healthy. What’s on your mind today? Shared with – Centerpiece Wednesday, Wow Us Wednesday, Before and After Wednesday, Bloom Designs, Empty Your Archive, Creative Muster, Project Parade, Inspired2, Whimsy Wednesday, Write or Die Wednesday, WIAW, Wordless Wednesday And if you’re not already, please follow me on Bloglovin Instagram and Twitter so we can stay in touch.