I met a girl. Her name is… oops, I can’t remember her name. It might come back to me. It would make sense that I can’t remember her name – she’s not particularly pretty. She’s not model tall or rail-thin. She didn’t turn heads until she started to speak, and by then there wasn’t anyone else around to be impressed – just me. She didn’t smile a lot when we talked. But when her phone rang and she walked away to talk to someone else, someone who, even though they weren’t standing there, was infinitely more interesting to her than me, even after the rebuff, she touched me.
That if we can’t figure out how to move forward, we have two choices – quit or find another way.
That either a person loves you and would do anything for you, or they don’t. That there is no in-between. That when it comes to love and commitment, there’s no exception, no excuses, no explanation.
She said that she’s not married because she’s never made that decision for someone. Nor has anyone stepped forward to make that decision about her.And when …. man, I wish I could remember her name … but when her phone rang and she transferred her attention from saying random, and what she might have thought were irrelevant, things to me and moved that attention to someone else, I realized she had said all she needed to.
Either it’s a commitment or it isn’t. There is no middle ground. You can commit to a person, to a job, to a plan, to a belief, to a principle. There is no exemption, no exception, no excuse.
Things aren’t that complicated. If there’s a reason you’re standing in the place you think is the gray area, it’s because you haven’t made the commitment. It’s because you haven’t said yes. Maybe you don’t want to say yes. Maybe you shouldn’t. Maybe yes isn’t the right answer. Who knows.
But at the end of the day, things are that simple.
Thanks… sorry I wish I could remember your name so I could send you a thank you card. But that’s okay, I’m sure wherever you are today, you’re changing someone else’s life. And that’s awesome.
But in the meantime, let me ask you the same question: Did you make a commitment to a plan, an idea, a belief, a principle or a person? Did you decide to go all the way and make an unwavering commitment to a goal this year (a goal or resolution)? And how is it going?