Have you ever found yourself saying, ‘I wish I could stop thinking… Something’? You know what I mean. You have a thought, a reaction to a situation, a reflex that you wish you didn’t have. It’s more like a habit – this tendency to think negatively. And you wish you could stop. You wish you could think something else, something better, something that would help the situation instead of making it worse.
Changing your thoughts isn’t as hard as it first seems but there’s only one way to do it; the only way to counteract a negative thought is to replace it with a positive one.
If you’re thinking something negative about yourself, you have to start training yourself to think about your positive characteristics instead. If you constantly find fault with a friend, you have to find and focus on what they do right instead of what they do wrong.
And if you’re constantly feeling jealous about your spouse, turns out you should work on learning how to trust yourself instead.
That’s the focus of Michael Cohen’s book, Rethink It – identifying negative, destructive thoughts and replacing them with constructive ones.
- Become intimate with yourself by identifying your thoughts and triggers. If you don’t know the situation, you won’t know what you need to fix or how to accomplish it. Getting to know yourself is the first step in getting better.
- Learn to relax and heal negative emotions. This doesn’t have to include new age practice of using candles and yoga. But deep breathing and meditation can be a great method to focus your mind.
- Change your behavior to change your circumstances. A person who wants to quit smoking eventually has to stop smoking them. Someone who wants to get fit has to start exercising. There’s a threshold that one has to pass over to go move from inactivity to activity. A change in behavior is a necessary final step. The book will show you how to accomplish it.
Michael Cohen is a Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist with decades of experience healing people with issues and he apparently has a lot of advice about how you can heal yourself.
Rethink It is a great read with lots of practical tips. I enjoyed getting little tidbits to help me learn more about why and how I deal with certain situations and how to have a better experience just by improving my thoughts and attitude.
I received an electronic Advance Readers Copy of Rethink It from NetGalley.com in exchange for an honest review.