The story is told of a church that was in dire need of repair. One day during the worship service, a piece of the ceiling plaster fell on the pastor’s head and immediately, a board meeting was called to discuss what should be done.
Everyone agreed that the building was too old and was way past the point of being patched up. A new, structurally sound building was needed ASAP. As the meeting progressed, four decisions were made:
- We will build a new church.
- We will build a new church in the same spot as the old church.
- We will use the materials from the old church to build the new church.
- We will keep worshipping in the old church until the new church is built.
How can they build a new church when they won’t give up the old one? How can they get something new if they won’t give up the thing that’s preventing them from getting it?
Everyone on the church board agreed that there was a problem. Everyone agreed on what the solution was. Yet no one wanted to do what was necessary for the solution to come about. They liked the new solution but they preferred the comfort of the old problem more.
This is how goals you said you’re going to achieve become dreams you merely talk about. This is how well-described plans die. No one likes change but everyone says they want the thing that change would result in.
In January, we set some lofty goals for ourselves. How are we doing on them now? If you made real progress, it’s because you abandoned the comfort zone and did something you’ve never done before. If you’re lagging behind in your goals, chances are it’s because you haven’t been willing to give up the comfortable.
I don’t say this to berate you – I say this to hold myself accountable. Tomorrow, I will do a May recap that will assess how I am progressing in my goals but I don’t have to look at them individually to know I’m not where I said I would be at this time. So far, I’m not reaching my goals. I’m not getting the things I said I would attain because I haven’t been willing to leave some things behind and reach for the ‘better’ that I said I wanted.
It’s hard to grab onto something new if your fists are still clenched around the relics of the past. To accomplish one’s goal, then, requires the fist first be unclenched.
What is your goal? What do you have to give up first in order to reach for it?
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