I called my dad on Sunday to wish him Happy Fathers Day. I tried a few times in the morning. Then I spent all day at a funeral and we played phone tag for a while. By the time I got to talk to my dad, it was night. Finally, we got to chat and he was happy to hear from me. He always is.
During the conversation, I mentioned to him that I was going to call him back one day this week for us to discuss a business venture I was interested in starting with him. In my mind, this was the warm up. The primer. I hadn’t thought too much about the details. I was just letting Daddy know we would talk about it sometime in the future. Because living away from my family for so many years, apparently that’s what I do now – I talk about taking action long before I make my first step. Where did that habit come from?
On Tuesday midday, my mom calls me. While we are talking, I casually slip into the conversation that I told Daddy I was going to call him to discuss some business.
“He did it already,” she says.
“What?” My jaw almost fell on the ground. Surely, she isn’t saying what I think she’s saying.
“Yeah he started setting it up.” Then my mom adds. “He started yesterday.”
Somehow, when I told my dad that I was interested in doing talking about doing something, he just went and got it started. That’s who he is. If he’s going to do something, why not do it now?
I haven’t lived with my parents for years. It’s been long enough that it seems I’ve forgotten how action-oriented they both are. They do things. They get things done. Granted, there are requests that they don’t act on for weeks, months. That’s a clear sign they aren’t interested in a project and you might as well give up on convincing them about that idea. But if they’re going to do it at all, why not do it now?
Somewhere in the years since I left home, my procrastination habits mean that I linger and postpone the things I say that I am interested in. I put off doing the things I say I can’t wait to do. Where did I learn that? Certainly, I didn’t get it from my parents.
I thought I was grown. I thought I was baked. I thought I had stuff figured out. Turns out I still have much to learn from mom and dad.
Today’s lesson from my father: if you say you’re going to do something, especially if it’s something you say means a lot to you, just do it!
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