3 Reasons We Don’t Get What We Want And What To Do About It

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and the shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocked it shall be opened. 

The quote above is from a familiar passage in the Bible – Matthew 7:7-8. Well-known thinkers of our time have weighed in on the idea in these verses.

  • Earl Nightingale said the concept of ask-and-receive is one of the best kept secrets of the universe, even though it is printed in the Bible for all to read.
  • In the Laws of Motion, Isaac Newton summed it up by saying For every action, there is an equal but opposite reaction – every action (asking) generates a reaction (receiving).
  • In her phenomenally best-selling book, The Secret, Rhonda Byrne calls it the Law of Attraction.

Ask and receive. I don’t ask for what I want nearly enough. Why not?

  1. Maybe I am shy to let others into my thoughts. Wouldn’t you rather have someone know what you’re thinking so they can give you the thing you want? How do you benefit from holding a secret that only weighs you down?
  2. Maybe I am afraid that my request will be denied and I’ll be ashamed. There are two logical responses to a request – yes and no. If it’s Yes, great.  No just means, “Ask again”. Ask someone else, if necessary. The law of probability says that just by chance I should get a yes response to at least half of my requests. No, chance is not the only factor at work but those are not bad odds. Yes, sometimes, there will be rejection, but that should just prompt me to keep asking.
  3. Maybe I don’t want others to help because I want to be independent and feel like I’ve done it all on my own. Independence is a modern social construct. Nothing significant has ever been achieved by a person working in isolation. Nothing. Steve Jobs had an entire Apple team behind him to create the masterpieces we like to marvel at. Yes, he was the pitch guy but he didn’t work alone. From his garage days, Bill Gates had “the other guy”. Even Einstein had a wife who was a scholar and who it’s reported he bounced ideas off to come up with the theory of relativity. And everyone knows I’m no Einstein. Independence is overrated.

Whatever my reason for not asking for what I want, it’s silly. Even the Bible tells me to ask for what I want. I should start doing that more often. And what about you? Have you sabotaged your own progress by making any of the excuses that I’ve held on to?

How easy is it for you to ask for what you want?

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. Paul says:

    I good at asking strangers for what I want. It’s the people that are close to me that I struggle with. After reading your blog it’s clear to me that I need to to work on asking those closest to me.

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    1. Run Wright says:

      Yes. The people in your life are already invested in you. They are more likely to say yes to your request, even if only because they want to be able to ask you a favor in the future.


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